Over the last couple of weeks, my colleague Will karlsen and I have been musing on what it is to have impact, gravitas and charisma. Have a listen to our two podcasts Episodes 17 & 18 on the topic. We all know when we meet someone who could be described as credibly having any or all of the ‘impact, gravitas and charisma’ trinity.
I previously wrote about feedback in the blog post 'Three reasons positive feedback matters’. It’s clear that being able to deliver feedback in a great way is such a useful skill for anyone to have. However, I’ve certainly met lots of people who would say that they have experienced poor feedback on any number of occasions.
This weeks Squeeze podcast considers what it might mean to look after number 1, a little bit of self care. It’s an odd topic for me, even as I start writing now, I feel a strange discomfort with it. I think it must have something to do with a foundational belief I hold too, that ‘selfishness is undesirable compared to selflessness’.
So tonight as the hour passes 2300 GMT, Britain will exit the European Union. Quite a moment, that will end a 47 year relationship with our neighbouring countries. No doubt entering the union was an experiment, just as is leaving it now. No doubt many will morn and many will rejoice.
There’s an ancient proverb that tells us “like a city whose walls are broken through, is a person who lacks self-control”. The picture is of the fortified city, which protects its inhabitants from all kinds of trouble. The walls keep the people safe by ensuring both dangerous animals and enemy peoples are kept at bay.
I wouldn’t say that I am avoiding commitment, but I wouldn’t say that I’m not! It’s new year and the news has been full of naysayers suggesting new gym or diet practices are bound to be short lived. Well for what it’s worth, I rather like the idea of new year new starts.
The skill of influencing has to be up there as one of the most valuable things to get right. We start working out what works when we are about 2 years old, pushing and bending our parents will through any means possible. Back then, we didn’t even care what others thought of us; we would happily throw a wobbly in the shopping line without the slightest concern for our reputation, all in the name of braking our parents resolve and securing whatever it was that we wanted.
The ability to change our behaviour is a gift, sometimes however we forget to use it! It’s easy for every one of us to get very comfortable with a whole range of behaviours that become well worn and frankly predictable. That’s of course OK when those behaviours bring the best out of me and others, but not nearly as good when they just serve to ‘get me by’ and even make life more difficult for others.
In this growing age of the digital nomad, there are many perceived benefits associated with being a remote worker. Many of these benefits are genuine, tangible things like not having to spend two or more hours of the day commuting too and from work.
With a blog title like ‘If there was just one thing that would make you highly effective, what would it be?’ I should probably start by defining what it is to be highly effective! Truth is, the answer to that question alone could be longer than the blog itself.
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