Three things you must avoid when giving feedback
I previously wrote about feedback in the blog post 'Three reasons positive feedback matters’.
It’s clear that being able to deliver feedback in a great way is such a useful skill for anyone to have. However, I’ve certainly met lots of people who would say that they have experienced poor feedback on any number of occasions.
Looking out for number 1
This weeks Squeeze podcast considers what it might mean to look after number 1, a little bit of self care. It’s an odd topic for me, even as I start writing now, I feel a strange discomfort with it. I think it must have something to do with a foundational belief I hold too, that ‘selfishness is undesirable compared to selflessness’.
It’s brexit whether you like it or not!
So tonight as the hour passes 2300 GMT, Britain will exit the European Union. Quite a moment, that will end a 47 year relationship with our neighbouring countries. No doubt entering the union was an experiment, just as is leaving it now. No doubt many will morn and many will rejoice.
Like a city whose walls are broken through, is a person who lacks self-control.
There’s an ancient proverb that tells us “like a city whose walls are broken through, is a person who lacks self-control”. The picture is of the fortified city, which protects its inhabitants from all kinds of trouble. The walls keep the people safe by ensuring both dangerous animals and enemy peoples are kept at bay.
Have you been committed?
I wouldn’t say that I am avoiding commitment, but I wouldn’t say that I’m not! It’s new year and the news has been full of naysayers suggesting new gym or diet practices are bound to be short lived. Well for what it’s worth, I rather like the idea of new year new starts.
Here’s the two most important lessons about influencing.
The skill of influencing has to be up there as one of the most valuable things to get right. We start working out what works when we are about 2 years old, pushing and bending our parents will through any means possible. Back then, we didn’t even care what others thought of us; we would happily throw a wobbly in the shopping line without the slightest concern for our reputation, all in the name of braking our parents resolve and securing whatever it was that we wanted.
How to change your behaviour!
The ability to change our behaviour is a gift, sometimes however we forget to use it! It’s easy for every one of us to get very comfortable with a whole range of behaviours that become well worn and frankly predictable. That’s of course OK when those behaviours bring the best out of me and others, but not nearly as good when they just serve to ‘get me by’ and even make life more difficult for others.
Are remote workers missing out?
In this growing age of the digital nomad, there are many perceived benefits associated with being a remote worker. Many of these benefits are genuine, tangible things like not having to spend two or more hours of the day commuting too and from work.
If there was just one thing that would make you highly effective, what would it be?
With a blog title like ‘If there was just one thing that would make you highly effective, what would it be?’ I should probably start by defining what it is to be highly effective! Truth is, the answer to that question alone could be longer than the blog itself.
The most important management role; building competence through coaching
One of our 4 C’s of being a high functioning team is ‘Competence’. It’s the domain expertise, skill element of the team. It’s something we all need, the manager, but also every single member of the team. However for the manager there is something really important to understand; no matter how brilliant you are, how great your competence, if your team isn’t up to the required competence then two things become very evident:
You can’t go and have lunch because your people will be addicted to you, and
you will never be able to empower your people with confidence.